Cellist,
My fade is the slowest I've known thus far because most of my relatives are firm JWs and I love them to pieces. Outside of the JW stuff, they're the nicest bunch of people I know and can't take yet the fact that I may lose them if I stop the JW facade altogether.
I do as least as possible to still be considered one of them, just to keep the lines of communication open between me and my folks.
They do know, however, that I'm 'spiritually weak', but as long as I'm still considered a JW they treat me very nicely. I just love them all so much!
My husband is very much into it, so there's my story. He also knows that I couldn't care any less about the Organization, but he loves me so he doesn't give me much grief about it anymore.
There will come a time in which I'll only attend Sunday meetings, and I won't knock on doors anymore. That will be more than enough for me.
DY